It's time to go back and pick up the girl you left behind.

Transitional experiences can provide the emotional motivation to return to an earlier, much simpler time.

One day we are daydreaming about how life will be and the next realization is that we are living a life we barely recognize. Often times 10, 20, 30 or 40 years have passed. The impetus for the transition is often greeted with dread, "oh my God I've lost my job," or "my spouse wants a divorce," these events are often viewed as terrible situations and problems to solve but actually they can be a way out of our robotic lives.

At my recent Women in Transition workshop, 6 incredible women courageously shared "where they'd been-caterpillar phase" and "where they are now-cocoon phase," compared to "where they wanted to be-butterfly phase."

There is a great deal of confusion and fear that comes with change and it was present at the start of the workshop. The good news is, we were all born with the innate ability to be whomever we want to be, our cells have the wisdom to guide us to higher purposes. Remember our minds stop us, but the heart knows.

If you feel you are not living the life you envisioned long ago, follow your heart back and pick up the girl you last saw in your 20s. To do this, consider connecting to a memory of her and writing her a letter, letting her know you miss her and want to reconnect.